In this episode of the Differentiated Love and Sex Podcast, Catherine Robuck (relationship coach) and Jackie Aston (certified therapist) discuss how escaping challenges through distraction is counterproductive for individuals and their relationships.

What this episode covers:

• Why escapism isn't a problem in itself, but becomes one when it replaces facing what actually needs to happen

• The counterintuitive truth that anxiety has to go up before it goes down, and why avoiding that spike keeps a problem exactly the same size or bigger

• How one partner's escapism can quietly become the other partner's overfunctioning, and how resentment builds on both sides of that split

• Why affairs function as a distraction from what's actually hard about a committed relationship, rather than evidence about what a person truly wants

• How to ask a distracted partner for what you actually want, instead of a list of complaints they'll find easy to tune out

• Why self-trust gets built or eroded in these small moments of following through, or not, on what we said we'd face

If it's landing for you, Catherine offers an introductory first session to see if she is the right fit.

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