About You
The One Who Wants More
You don’t mind hard work. You’ve built a life on it.
You’re the person people turn to with big problems. You can often see a way forward where others don’t.
There’s just one area where you seem to go round and round: Growing Your Relationship
You want lasting love & expansive passion.
You want the quiet confidence of knowing someone chose you for you — not your money, looks, or status.
You want a relationship with the person who’s been by your side through building a career, a family, and a home.
But they don’t seem that into you these days.
What’s Going On?
You’ve started to think about sleeping in separate rooms, just to get a break from the loneliness and tension of sharing a bed.
With all of the emotional walls that have been built up between you and the person you once dreamed of growing old with, separate bedrooms seem better than sleeping beside one another.
The fights feel like replays of past fights. All the ‘I statements’ in the world don’t seem to make a dent in the resentment running through your home.
When you do have sex, you feel more appeased than pleased - like you’re accommodating a partner you haven’t felt in love with in years.
You wonder:
Does my partner even like me anymore?
Or are they staying for practical reasons?
The Desire Disconnect
YOU’RE GOOD AT FIGURING THINGS OUT BUT…
…Repairing the broken trust and withered sexual connection in your marriage remains a challenge.
If you could reach your partner, you would.
Yet, your partner doesn’t seem to appreciate, let alone reciprocate, your efforts to grow closer or wake up your sex life.
What if the source of disconnect is a difference in desire?
If so, it takes more than communication, therapy, and dates to get closer to your partner.
You’ve read relationship books, tried therapy, & planned dates.
Whether you’re gridlocked over sex or something else, it’s very likely you’ve each compromised as much as you feel you’re able.
Now you may be facing the overwhelming reality that one of you wants more and one of you wants less.
What I Offer
A Different Kind of Coaching
I work on the premise of radical hope. With practical steps that move you towards solutions, I get to the root of your issue.
Once you understand the marriage mechanisms that facilitate personal and relational growth, you can begin to work with the pressure you feel rather than getting flooded by it.
As a coach, I don’t diagnose, prescribe, or pathologize.
I share everything I’ve learned through study and painful experience. I share how love works and how to work with it.
Let’s create a life and a love you enjoy waking up to.
How I Work
I work with clarity, directness, and humor.
From a functional level, I help you change your emotional experience by changing what you do and how you engage with your life.
I guide committed people who want more from life into loving themselves and each other more deeply.
Why It Works
A lot of couples’ counseling aims to increase validation by deliberately doing and saying validating things.
This can result in a therapy approach that creates a polite marriage, which fails to generate the passion, warmth, and joy we all long to feel.
Let’s Create Passion in Your Committed Relationship
TOGETHER WE WILL
Resolve the deep wounds you and your partner bring into your marriage and reenact with each other
Develop a self you respect and enjoy
What is
Differentiation?
And What Does It Do For Your Relationship
Differentiation is the process of expanding your capacity to be true to yourself while being close to your partner.
COUPLES WHO GROW DEEPER IN LOVE OVER TIME GO THROUGH THE PROCESS OF DIFFERENTIATION
