In this episode of the Differentiated Love and Sex Podcast, Catherine Robuck (relationship coach) and Jackie Aston (certified therapist) use the story of Chris and Sienna from Couples Therapy to discuss infidelity, why partners are unfaithful, and why partners don't catch it sooner.

What this episode covers:

• Jackie and Catherine break down a real couples therapy clip featuring Chris and Sienna, working through his infidelity and the pattern underneath it

• Why one partner doing all the pursuing, decoding, and caretaking can hold a relationship in balance, even when it's costing her

• How Chris deflects ownership of the affair by making the conversation about whether he's "a bad person," and why that move works on his wife

• What it looks like when someone seems open while controlling exactly what gets revealed and what stays hidden

• Why going through a partner's phone doesn't resolve the actual problem, and what determines whether a relationship like this changes

This pattern of one partner overfunctioning to hold a relationship together, chasing answers, managing the other person's moods, doing the emotional work for both of them, is something Catherine sees often in her work with clients.

If it's landing for you, Catherine offers an introductory first session to learn if she is the right fit for you.

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