In the Differentiated Love and Sex Podcast, Catherine Robuck (relationship coach) and Jackie Aston (certified therapist) talk with Dr. Anna Elton, licensed marriage and family therapist, certified sex therapist, and author of the upcoming book The Formula of Desire.

Together, they discuss what's actually going on in relationships that, while looking healthy on paper, may experience a reduction in desire.

What this episode covers:‍ ‍

• Why spontaneous desire is a myth, and how much invisible effort goes into the feeling that's supposed to arrive on its own.

• What gets lost when couples stop flirting, stop noticing each other, and revert to what Anna calls the onion's outer layer.

• The courage it takes to initiate an honest conversation about what you actually want, and why so few couples ever have it.

• A client story about a woman whose partner became her rock early on, and how the same dynamic that once felt calming turned into resentment and a total loss of desire once she was carrying everything.

• Why finding yourself desirable has nothing to do with a number on a scale, and everything to do with how you relate to yourself.

• How separateness, not merging into one shared identity, is often what makes a partner feel desirable again.

If any of this sounds like your relationship, Catherine offers relationship coaching to help you better understand it.

Try a 30-minute consultation to learn if Catherine is the right fit for you and your relationship needs.