Are you the partner who always wants more — more sex, a cleaner house, more connection — while your partner seems perfectly content with less?

Or are you the one who feels constantly pressured, like nothing you do is ever enough?

In this episode of Differentiated Love & Sex, licensed psychotherapist Jackie Aston and relationship coach Catherine Roebuck unpack one of the most frustrating dynamics in long-term relationships: the high desire / low desire power struggle.

They cover:

• Why the partner who wants something less almost always controls the outcome

• How this shows up in sex, household responsibilities, parenting, and emotional intimacy

• Why low desire for sex is often good judgment — and what that means for your relationship

• The parent-child dynamic that kills desire (and how to get out of it)

• What high desire partners do that actually pushes their partner further away

• Why opening your relationship won't solve what's already broken

• How both partners can shift — without one person just giving in

Whether you're the one who wants more or the one who wants less, this conversation will help you see the dynamic more clearly — and give you real tools to start changing it.

This is the kind of work Catherine does with couples and individuals all the time.

If you're curious what it might look like to explore this, book a 30-minute consultation with Catherine.