“…Ultimately, secure attachment is the ability to be okay at a variety of [physical and emotional] distances.”

Relationship expert Catherine Roebuck talks with couples therapist James Christensen in a pre-recorded conversation about anxious and secure attachment, using a metaphor to help us process the two styles of relational capacity.

Key Points

• Anxious pursuit is not love

• Avoidant partners don’t really want to be alone

• Fear of abandonment and being smothered induces the same feelings

• Slowing down as a way to respond differently

• Sefl compassion